4 Unromantic Questions to Ask Before Getting Married

Deciding to get married is one of the most important decisions in life. In addition to discussing the wedding ceremony and honeymoon, there are much less pleasant, far from romantic topics to talk about with the future husband or wife.

Four questions to ask your future spouse

WHAT DO YOU THINK OF A PRENUPTIONAL AGREEMENT?

Many couples avoid discussing this topic because they think it’s too mundane and at odds with all the romantic fluff surrounding their marriage. In fact, the purpose of the prenuptial agreement is to specifically define the rights of each of the spouses to joint money and real estate in the event of separation, divorce, or death.

It is very important to discuss these topics beforehand. This will allow you to find out about each other’s plans for the future together, decide how you will handle money when you become a family, what lifestyle you will choose, what will happen when you have joint children, pets, shared housing, etc.

WHEN DO YOU FEEL UNFAITHFUL?

Different people view infidelity differently. Someone wants an exclusively monogamous relationship and considers even watching pornographic films infidelity. And for some, even much more serious deviations do not seem like something terrible. That is why it is so important to define boundaries in advance and put all the dots on the “i” – this will help to avoid unnecessary scandals and accusations in the future.

WHAT MARRIAGE VOWS CAN WE REALLY MAKE TO EACH OTHER?

Usually, traditional vows and promises during a marriage ceremony are very formal and unrealistic. Therefore, it makes sense to discuss with your future husband or wife what you can realistically promise each other when getting married. Something more sincere, alive, touching the soul, that speaks about you and your relationship than the standard vows of eternal love and “until death do us part”.

IS THERE SOMETHING I DON’T KNOW ABOUT YOU AND YOU’RE AFRAID TO TELL ME?

Secrets based on shame, fear of being ridiculed or rejected, how acid can eat away at even the strongest of relationships. That is why it is better to share them before marriage. As long as it’s not something the other person can’t accept, being open about it will increase the level of trust and intimacy between you.